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This is is another discussion piece that reflects my belief that the context in which the debate on sexual freedom is taking place is the real problem. Unless we challenge both sides to reevaluate their approach to human sexuality then nothing positive will ever evolve.

I am a sex worker and I love my work. I am an activist in the hope that society will one day once again recognise and celebrate sex work as a positive reflection of our shared humanity rather than being a negative indictment of human nature. I make no excuses about sex work. I understand sex work often can encapsulates the worst of human nature. The fact that sex work reflects human imperfections however should not be used as an excuse to deny sex workers rights. Instead we must understand those negative imperfections within the context of a traumatised society where sex is something that is all too often presented as shameful and punishable if out side carefully and often unnaturally prescribed behaviour.

The present hysteria over trafficking for example and anxiety over the so called sexualisation of our society and the currently fashionable presumptions of gender inequality argued to be inherent within commercialised sex is a symptom of trauma and not a recognition of progressive sexual understanding. Arguments about human sexuality continue, when defined within a context which refuses to question our shared negative perceptions of human sexuality, to define the argument from both sides within degrees of guilt and shame. As long as sex is presumed a problem rather than the shared neurosis that has shaped our perceptions of sex as being a problem to be controlled ,then as a society we will never move forward. Instead the debate will continue to scapegoat minorities to justify our schizophrenic approach to human sexual expression.

This shared societal trauma that I refer to not only damages our understanding of human sexuality but also affects how we interact and react both in the personal and institutionally. Our society historically has institutionalised violence and adversarial interaction. This is not the confused and simplistic adversarial dialogue between labour and capital which is a symptom of our societal trauma, but a recognition that a human society must accept humanity and understand that humanity as the basis of a just and natural society and repudiate the brutality of dogmas that censor what we are.

To move forward we have to question everything and rediscover our natures and recognise human nature as progressive and not regressive.

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This entry was posted on 25 May, 2011 by in Uncategorized.
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